Outfitting A Comfort Drawer

Sarah Ban Breathnach in her book Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy reminds you that life requires you prepare yourself for the inevitable times that try your soul. This is achieved with a comfort drawer. Comfort drawers are for those nights when you feel as though you would like to pull the covers over your head and never come out.  Your refuge should be a drawer in your dresser where you stockpile small indulgences throughout the year. Many of your comforts may have originally been gifts that you have simply saved for whenever a home-grown unhappiness remedy might be required. She recommends the following:

  • A box of chocolate truffles
  • One serving size fruit cordials
  • Miniature after dinner drinks
  • An aromatherapy bath treatment to promote serenity
  • Various British decorating magazines
  • A small vial of Bach’s Rescue Remedy
  • A velvet herbal sleeping pillow
  • A satin eye mask
  • Rose scented bubble bath & talc
  • Old love letters tied wit a silk ribbon
  • A scrapbook of personal mementos
  • A tin of fancy biscuits
  • An assorted gift sampler of assorted teas
  • The soundtrack to Boys On The Side

Notice the simply abundant pattern of pleasure? Here is all that is required for the spoiling and pampering of a world weary woman:

  • A fabulous bath
  • Something scrumptious to nibble
  • Something sentimental to conjure up happy memories
  • Something lovely to sip
  • Something delightful to read

Now change your sheets, plump up your pillow and assemble half-dozen votive candles on a tray. Place the tray on your dressing table in front of the mirror, strike a match and ceremoniously create your own northern lights. Play some soothing music and put on your favourite pyjamas or nightgown. Get into bed and luxuriate. If this doesn’t work take two aspirins and sleep till the morning.

When outfitting your comfort drawer, be sure to line it be sure to line it with a lovely floral shelf paper and tuck in some scented sachets so that the drawer will delight your senses. Wrap your comforts in pretty jewel coloured tissue paper and tie them with beautiful ribbons This way when you open your drawer, you’ll see a dazzling array of wonderful presents, gifts of the heart for the most deserving person you know.

Iyanla Vanzant in her book Don’t give It Away: A Workbook of Self-Awareness and Self-Affirmations for Young Women says that there are some things a girl must have if she is to survive being a girl. The following is a list of items you will find helpful on the days when things aren’t going so great. Ask friends and relatives to contribute to the things you need . Keep your survival kit in a safe place. Use your survival kit when you don’t know what else to do to feel better.

A Girls Survival Kit

  • Rose scented bath salts & bubble bath
  • Lavender scented bath salts
  • Peppermint scented bath salts
  • A bag of Hershey’s Kisses
  • A fuzzy teddy bear
  • A Barbie doll with two changes of clothes
  • A journal or personal notebook
  • A colouring book & crayons
  • A purple & blue ink pen
  • A box of tissues
  • A bag of peppermint candy
  • your favourite colour nail polish
  • A pink cotton nightgown & pair of pyjamas
  • A white cotton nightgown & pair of pyjamas
  • A pair of pink sheets for your bed
  • A framed baby picture of yourself
  • A tree

When you feel angry:

  • Take a twenty minute rose bubble bath
  • Put on your pink nightgown or Pyjamas
  • Colour 3 pages of your colouring book, & colour everything blue & green
  • Write out exactly what you are feeling in your journal with your blue pen
  • Put the pink sheets on your bed, lie down & curl up with your teddy bear

When you feel sad:

  • Take a lavender bath
  • put on your best outfit
  • Have 3 Hershey’s kisses
  • Colour 3 pages in your colouring book
  • Write out what you feel in your journal (be sure to have your tissues near by)
  • Talk to your baby picture, tell the baby all the things you want to hear

When you feel confused:

  • Take a peppermint bath
  • Suck on a peppermint
  • Put on your white nightgown or pyjamas
  • Polish your toenails
  • Comb Barbie’s hair & change her clothes
  • Colour three pages in your colouring book
  • Write out what you feel in your journal

When you feel frightened:

  • Talk to your tree, tell the tree exactly what you feel & ask it to help you be strong
  • Take a rose & lavender bath
  • Have a peppermint candy
  • Put on your white nightgown or pyjamas
  • Paint your finger & toenails
  • Talk to your baby picture, tell the baby all the things you need to hear
  • Colour 5 pages in your colouring book, use as much pink as you can

When you feel lonely:

  • Take a rose bath
  • Put on your pink nightgown or pyjamas
  • Have 3 Hershey’s kisses
  • Write a letter to yourself in your journal with your purple pen, explaining why you feel what you feel
  • Read the letter to your teddy bear
  • Do 10 jumping jacks
  • Colour 3 pages in your colouring book

Creating A Toy Box

Sarah Ban Breathnach in her book Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy constantly reminds you that you don’t need to an excuse anymore to make toys a part of your life, if you want to continue to grow as a human being and as an artist, its imperative for you to respect the power of play. That’s why you have to own a toy box. Creating your own toy box symbolically suggest the importance of fun if you are to function at full throttle.

First find the perfect box. A wicker picnic basket, or a small wooden or fabric covered box with a lid can do duty as a toy chest. The lid is the most important feature because what goes in there is your business. These are your toys, maybe you’ll share, maybe you wont.

Now plan a creative excursion to begin filling it:

  • Go to a well stocked stationary & gift shop to get some stickers, coloured paper clips, pretty pencils, whimsical erasers & funny cards that tickle your fancy
  • A milk jug in the shape of a cow
  • A string of chilli pepper lights
  • A magic wand
  • A stuffed teddy bear
  • A beautiful dolls house
  • A large jigsaw puzzle
  • A porcelain doll

Put your stickers and cards in your toy box until the right moment comes along to use them, place the paperclips, erasers & pencils on your desk, hang the chilli lights on your spice rack and put your cow milk jug in the refrigerator. Laugh when you see your toys and let them visually remind you to lighten up.

Now think about think about the toys you yearned for as a child but never had. Its not too late, Start changing your holiday & birthday wish list, you don’t have to get a dust buster. Tell the people in your life  your new preferences.

Iyanla Vanzant in her book Don’t Give It Away: A Workbook of Self Awareness and Self Affirmations for Young Women says that the following toys are essential to have in every girls survival for helping make you feel better on the days when things aren’t going so great.

  • A fuzzy Teddy bear
  • A Barbie doll with two changes of clothes
  • A colouring book and crayons
  • A selection of cartoon movies (Michelle A’Court recommends “Frozen”, Lisa O’Neill recommends “Inside Out” and Trinny & Susannah recommend “Snow White”

Now get your toys, go out and play like a good big girl.