Spend Out

Gretchen Rubin in her book The Happiness Project suggests in July buying some happiness by spending out. As she points out in her book it is not nice to be surrounded by things that are worn out, stained or used up. Stop hoarding, trust in abundance so that you can use things up, give things away and through things out. To stop keeping score and saving things for good, not to stint on love or generosity. Spending out creates a wealth of love and tenderness, while calculation and score keeping build resentment.

In my own life I know that I am bad for making do with something I don’t like while saving the good replacement for tomorrow and there are no guarantees of a tomorrow. I must make a conscious effort to stop living life like its a dress rehearsal and to let go of the expectation of praise or appreciation when I do something generous for someone else.

Trinny and Susannah in their book What Your Clothes Say About You: How To Look Different, Act Different And Feel Different say that even if you have very little money, you can still learn to enjoy what you do have rather than fear that you will go without. Make yourself an Abundance Box. It works like a swear jar, every time you hear yourself utter words like “I cant afford it” or “The price of petrol these days” or “I’m keeping this old thing for a rainy day” or “That’s too good for me” or any other poverty inspired statement, put a coin in your abundance box and start thinking of reasons why you should have it and can afford it. In the long term this will help cure you of your poverty thinking which feeds the feeling of fear and deprivation. At the end of each month take all cash from the abundance box and buy something totally indulgent like a scented candle. You are not allowed to use this money for anything useful or practical.

 

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