Its not until you try to give this up that you begin to realise just how much you do it. Its hard to give up too, not only does it just slip out but it comes in so many subtle forms and people will actively get upset with you for not participating in their gossiping. Be strong though, as I am trying to be, just think what a great place the world would be if each of us could just give up this one bad habit.
According to Gretchen Rubin in her book The Happiness Project, even though gossiping not only makes people feel closer to each other but also plays an important social roll in reinforcing community values and exposing those who don’t play by the rules, just don’t go there. It is not a nice thing to do, it leaves a horrible feeling of guilt when you know you’ve said something you shouldn’t have and there’s a little thing called spontaneous trait transference where what you say about other people, the person you say it to associates it with you. Ever heard the saying takes one to know one. Remember that the next time you’re about to tell someone what a horrible person you think someone else is.